Hi everyone. I’m new to this club and was hoping I could get some advice for a serious problem. First, I can not afford a lawyer, and have been trying to represent myself Pro-se. I obtained custody of my oldest(daughter) in June of 98, through a mediation agreement. The mediation attorney was somehow connected to my ex’s attorney and both have been working together against my situation. The mediation agreement was never filed in the courts by the attorney. I have a copy of the hand written agreement that was signed by myself, my ex, and the attorney. It specifically indicates that the child support would be adjusted according to the guidelines. The company I was working for at the time of the agreement, was automatically deducting child support for both children, in addition to me paying for their medical and dental.
I accepted a voluntary retirement from them because of the possibility of my department being privatized, and figured that at least I would get something from them even after the management company came in and took over. Even though my daughter was with me, they were still taking out the support for both children. I lost my wife shortly thereafter and had enough to worry about dealing with the grief, and the fact that I couldn’t afford a lawyer, figured that I would be leaving the company in a few months, so I decided it wasn’t worth the grief to try to stop the IDO. Well, after I left the company, my ex went back to court, because she was no longer getting the support, and with the help of her lawyer, put me in contempt. The court didn’t want to hear about the fact that I had my daughter, had a legal agreement with my ex that was signed and witnessed.
They found me in contempt, indicated that I would have to come up with a $500 purge payment to stay out of jail, and would have to continue to give her child support for both children. They also figured that because I stopped paying her support after the IDO stopped, when I left the company I retired from, that I was also in arrears for almost $14000 to her. I never heard of anything so stupid. I thought the courts were suppose to uphold justice. The signed agreement I have means nothing according to what the legal system has allowed. Is my ex not guilty of fraud, and what can I do to stop this, and get back the money she received and is continuing to receive that she should not be. Any help would be greatly appreciated.